Just to add my 2 cents...boyfriends like the one described on the very first post (I am just joining the party) are merely a speed bump. My wife, when I first met her, also had a boyfriend what was a "speed bump" in my mind. I treated him as such, paid no attention to him, and basically stole my wife's heart away.
We are now happily married, and I am really glad I had the balls to do what was needed to get her by my side.
The moral of the story is: Boyfriends are speed bumps. Girls like ColLAIRE are begging for a real man to step up and act like a future husband should act like. You think she likes her relationship? She is just there because he is expressing lots of interest, no other reason. If you start asking her out on dates, getting to know her better, that boyfriend will be a thing of the past, and soon you'll be the boyfriend. If you treat her right, you won't be a speed bump for another guy either
