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Hi all.
Sorry I have not posted in a while. Some of you know I moved to Texas from California earlier in the year. My wife stayed to finish up nursing school and was coming out next month. Well this past weekend she told me she wants a divorce.
Basically she left me and our 3 kids here. I am legally blind so I can not dirve home. I am also on a limited budget and the way home prices went up in California I would never be able to buy another home for my kids to grow up in. I need to get back home to California before Christmas and file for divofce as soon as I can. I have my home here on the market but sales have slowed a bit so yesturday I dropped the price $10k. with the sale of this house I will actually be losing alot of money and anything left over will be used for the divorce.
By posting here I was hoping that any fellow Axiomites might know of any emotional/financial support group or anything that might be out there to help me in my darkest hour. My sadness is still here gut is slowly turning into anger. I just have to focus on my children and get our lives back on track.

Thanks,
Clarence

Ow, man... what do you even say to that?

Really really sorry to hear, unfortunately I don't know of anyone to help... but thoughts are with you.

Bren R.

Having gone through this twice, the best advice I can give you is to NOT make any rash decisions. When emotions take over, we tend to make very bad decisions. You have your kids to think about, but you need to take care of yourself first. You can do them no good if you are a mess. You need to slow down, push the emotions away for the time being and THINK. The decisions you make now will affect you for the rest of your life. Be smart about all this. And it wouldn't hurt to get yourself a good attorney.

Sorry to hear this dude, but hang in there. There is life after divorce and things always have a way or working themselves out. I might be out a few hundred thou, but I’m much happier, and my kids are much better off too.

Hving never been married, I am unable to offer any practical help. But I can tell you I feel so bad about your situation, and wish you the best. I'm sure there must be some support groups out there. Keep looking, and keep your chin up. You will get through this. There will be a time, in the not too distant future, when you'll feel whole again. Don't give up!

Man, that sucks.

Maybe a dumb question, but are you sure you want to sell the house right now ? I don't have a good feel for price trends in Texas, don't know if this is a good idea or not.

Also (not wanting to fuel the anger or anything) but why do *you* have to file for divorce ? Is there something in US law that says you have to do all the work if she wants to leave ?

Personally I would sit my ass in Texas and if she wanted a divorce she could damn well drive back and pick me up. Sorry to be so blunt but this is a good time for it.

Hi Clarence,

I can't offer much advice for your situation, however, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your kids, and even your wife.

You are correct about needing to stay focused and positive for your kids. It is important that you don't bring them into all of these latest events if possible. It seems to often that children get caught in the middle these days. Be strong and have faith my friend. We are here for you.

Randy

Sorry to hear the bad news Clarence, like Mike I've been through this before.
I wholeheartedly agree with John, stay where you are until you can get the proper price for your home, let her file for divorce. Calif. divorce laws are pretty simple, split half of everything earned during the marriage, custody of the kids determines child support. I realize this sounds cold, but thats just the facts, stand your ground, and if she wants the divorce let her file the paperwork.

Thanks everyone for all the support.
I have so much to do but one thing I do know is I am not getting rid of my Axiom's. Does anyone have a ep500 box that your willing to part with?
Thank,
Clarence

Clarence, I am sorry to hear such news. All I can do is echo what the others have said to give yourself some time to make rational decisions. Take things one step at a time, otherwise things will be pretty overwhelming. Hang in there.

Clarence,

I read this last night and all I could think of was WOW, that is a major bummer. I wouldn't know what to do since I haven't been in that situation. But, it was a shock to read this. Best of luck to you.