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..concerning long time forum member FordPrefect (Wayne). Wayne lost his dear Mother on December 16th. Needless to say it was a somber Christmas for Wayne and his wife Mary, who had been helping care for their Mother.

In January, Mary started not feeling well. Most of her life she has been struggling with a weakened immune system caused by a childhood accident and, by mid January, Wayne was concerned enough to call an ambulance. She was admitted to the ICU, and was diagnosed with a form of pneumonia the doctor referred to as “yeast” pneumonia (possibly Pneumocystis pneumonia).

Sadly her condition has worsened. She has slipped into a coma and her kidneys are failing. Wayne fears the worse, and has proceeded with final arrangements.

As you might imagine, Wayne is carrying a heavy load. I spoke to him on the phone earlier this evening, and he is doing as well as can be expected under the circumstances. Frankly, he is a much stronger than I.

Though he doesn’t post all that often, Wayne is a frequent visitor to the Axiom forum, and has been for more than 5 years. He told me that reading here, and at another forum he frequents, is a welcome break from the stress he’s dealing with. So, I just want him to know that I’m thinking of him, and sending the best thoughts I can his way.

Take care of yourself my friend.

Damn that's horrible news, my heart feels heavy for him and his family. Wayne you will certainly be in my thoughts, take care and God bless.

Wayne, I'm so sorry to hear this. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

Sorry to hear, Wayne... always tough to go through that...

Bren...

Wayne, that's devastating news. . .

Please hang in there. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.

Yes, Wayne is one of the real veteran board members.

Wayne, it certainly has been a tough two months, and my prayers are with you.

Hey Wayne,

Sorry to hear about your mother. A loss of a family member is such a hard time for everyone. My thoughts and prayers will be with both you and Mojo, as he just lost his father.

Hope to see you around hear in the near future my friend.

Randy

Words don't convey the sorrow. Add my prayers to others, Wayne.

Wayne, I'm so sorry to hear of this. Please accept my condolences for your mom and my best wishes for Mary.

She, and you, will be in my thoughts.

Please let me know if there's anything I can do.....

Wayne, I'm sorry to hear about this and hope your wife stays strong.

I'm in Burlington and if you ever need something let me know.

Graeme

Wayne, my best wishes for Mary my friend. Condolences for the loss of your mother. They are both in my prayers.

Ray

I'm really sad to learn of the terrible news Wayne, condolences out for your mother and we'll be praying for Mary.

Wayne, times like this seem to magnify distances between individuals. May the knowledge that the events of the last two months are in our thoughts and prayers lighten your heart and diminish the feeling of isolation.

Hello everyone,

This is about my third attempt at replying to you, I hope this time I can actually get it done.

First off THANK YOU so much for your thoughts and prayers, they aren't empty words, they really are helping, they mean a lot to me.

Yesterday I spent my free time sorting through photos and over 1,500 slides trying to find the most meaningful images of Mary in case things don't work out. As Jack said I have made final arrangements and am trying to prepare myself for the worst.

Today a tracheostomy is being done as the current breathing tubes are only a short term solution.

Sorry, but I've noticed I'm starting to babble so I'd better end by thanking this forum for being a place where I can come and enjoy a bit of quiet time.

Graeme thanks for your kind offer, if nothing else perhaps one morning we can meet over a nice warm Timmies (our national coffee addiction for those of you south of the border).

And Jack, I don't know what to say, your kindness is beyond limits, thanks for lending me your ears.

excuse my spelling and grammar I don't think I'm at the top of my game and I don't have the energy to recheck it.

Cheers to all of you

Wayne

Please accept my condolences Wayne. Many of us here on the board are strangers but we all can relate to the sadness when a loved one moves on. I wish you strength and and peace in her fond memories.

My condolences for your mother Wayne. My prayers go to you and Mary.

Very sorry to hear about Mary. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family Wayne.

You're in our thoughts and prayers, Wayne. Your example and your spirit continue to make a difference in my life. God bless.

Mary died in my arms this morning, the ventilator and all tubes had been removed and by some miracle she looked just like the girl I married 32 years ago, she looked so beautiful. She passed 20 minutes after the life support had been removed, very peaceful; as if she were asleep.



Thanks so much for your help and support, it has meant so much.
Wayne

Wayne, I'm sorry. . .

I fear words just can't express my sorrow for you. It is touching to know that Mary's final moments were spent in your arms. I'm sure it was very comforting for her.

Wayne, I am so sorry for your loss and can't imagine what you are going through. I'm starting to tear up as I'm a pretty emotional guy.

I will keep you, Mary, and your Mother in my prayers.

Randy

Oh my, Wayne I am so sorry to hear that. I am very saddened by the news. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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I took a moment to reflect on the joy and fullness of life that my wife brings me daily. I can't imagine losing her and thus can't possibly understand your current state. The strength you're showing now and the willingness to share such personal information is very touching. Thanks for sharing with us, Wayne.

Wayne, please accept my condolences. There really aren't any words that can ease your pain at this time, but I hope there is some comfort in knowing that you and Mary had those last few minutes together in each other's arms.

Please let me know if there's anything I can do to help regarding those slides and photographs or in any other way whatsoever.

Mark

Wayne,

I am sorry for your loss. I am glad you got to spend one more peaceful moment with your wife. I am sure you were a comfort for her.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

DL30

Once again Wayne please accept my deepest condolences. I'm sure that Mary appreciated having you there with her as much as you appreciated her.

Wayne.... so VERY sorry. You are both in my prayers.

Ray

I'm so sorry to hear this, Wayne. My heart goes out to you and your family.

See PM.

Go mairir is go gathair

Wayne, your post about Mary's passing made me tear-up immediately. Again, my condolences and may she rest in peace in the arms of God.

Wayne - really sorry to hear... I don't know what else to say... if you need to talk, I'm sure any of us will lend an ear.

Bren R.

I'm not sure if this is the right thing to say, but I'm really glad you could have those last moments with her and see that she went peacefully. It seems like there are a lot worse ways to go. It's very sad, but unfortunately it's a part of the process. I find your attitude very admirable.

Like everyone else, my thoughts are with you. I don't know you very well, but I've seen your name around enough when perusing old threads to know what a valuable member you are. I think I can safely say we're all here for you, should you need some support.

Wayne I don't know what to say other than I too am very sorry to hear about the loss of your Mary, please accept my condolences and may she rest in peace.

Words can not convey my feelings at the momment I read this. You and your family are in my prayers.

May Mary rest in peace. All my condolences to you... I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.

Dear Wayne - I can only add my voice to the chorus from our friends. May you find peace and comfort in your loved ones and your memories.

Wayne this is very sad to hear, my heart goes out to you. As CV stated, being able to be with Mary and have her in your arms in the last moments is something to cherish.

When I was 13 (32 now) my mother was battling cancer and the day she passed I was going to see her in the morning and at the last minute decided not to. Something that will always stay with me and bother me.

Keep strong and don't feel shy in using your very supportive group of friends here at Axiom. I love this community.

Wayne, you show tremendous strength having Mary pass in your arms.. I teared instantly when I read your post. I frankly don't think I could handle a situation like that the way you did.

My best to you and your family, you're in my thoughts.

Joe

Wayne, I'm very sorry to hear of this. Pleasse, accept my condolences. You and your family will be in my thoughts.

Jaime

Please accept my condolences.

Sad news indeed. Please accept my condolences. I almost lost my wife and newborn a couple of years ago during delivery, and am thankful every day for what I have. It can all change in a flash.

Hi again,

Sorry to bring this up again but I just wanted to have an attempt at closure.

The funeral was a week ago today, and if it's supposed to make you feel better then it did the trick. The location was fairly new; and unlike where we had my mother's funeral, the location was more like an art gallery than a funeral home. It was quite uplifting and left everyone feeling positive.

We expected about 90 people and got 140+. The service was conducted by my cousin and was very touching. He has the ability to make everyone feel like they are all part of the same family.

I'm keeping very busy settling my mother's estate, selling her condo and trying to wrap up all the loose ends involving Mary. I have good days and horrible days. I know for a fact that the good days are going to be increasing in numbers.

Starting to babble (again) so I just want to say thank you all so much for your thoughts and words. They made a real difference.

You are an amazing group of people.


Wayne

Dear Wayne,

Thanks so much for checking in. I did notice that you were online this morning, and I had the brief inclination to "shout" at you. I figured you'd chime in when you felt like it.

I'm so glad you got some comfort from family and loved ones at the service. Sounds like you're lucky to have your cousin in your life.

Remember to find some joy in music when you can.

Wayne, like Tom, I'm glad you had friends and family around you during the service.

I wish you comfort and happiness as the days move forward.

Well wishes to you Wayne.

Good to hear you are on the bumpy road to healing. Don't worry, you'll find smooth road again. Time. Wishing you well, Wayne.

Wayne, best wishes and take care of yourself. Hope to see you online in the near future.

Randy

Please add my voice to the chorus, as Tom nicely put it. Sorry for missing this thread and being late to offer a kind word, but here is the kind word anyway: Love.

We grieve because we love, because we loved. Remember the love and you will be an emotionally rich man forever.

I echo that you have shown great strength and kindness to share your news with us. Your posts, Jack's seed post, and the dozens of responses have really shown the best of our community.

Best wishes to you.

J.P.

I've not been around here much lately so I missed all the earlier posts. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, and at the same time thrilled to once again see what an amazing community we have here on the Axiom boards. This is truly a special place. We're all here for you Wayne.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss, Wayne. My thoughts are with you.