I've always bargained for the stuff I want - giving up something here to get something there. Gave up the motorcycles - bought SeaDoos. Gave up the SeaDoos - bought Axioms. Gonna give up cigars - gonna get something really cool and unnecessary like an SVS PC Plus 20-39.
If you're already living a clean and non-dangerous life point that out, "Hey, honey, it's not like I'm out getting drunk at the brewery and riding my bike through the canyons at 100 mph." Maybe she'll see your HT hobby as a pretty benign (if expensive) activity.
My wife objects to the "always talking about speakers" more than she objects to the money.
