My advise is to claim a room of the house/apt your own. Where you can do whathever you like with it and dont worry about 'matching pillows'... I already have 'my room', I use it for my keyboards & computers and cello practice. So that leaves the HT room in her domain.
You have no idea on how hard it takes me to convince my wife that those 'minicubes' speakers are not ideal for music

Jaime

The sailor does not pray for wind, he learns to sail. --Lindborg