I figured out my aeropress process problem - turn it upside down for the steep portion of the program like in this article from Serious Eats
ALSO, repurchased a french press and have been using that a lot lately. Previous versions suffered from unfortunate fates, usually involving loud noises, swearing and hazardous cleanup.
I've really been enjoying the french press a lot. Our instant hot water thing puts out "only" about 190F, so I've become convinced that controlling the steep time is more important than higher temperature. In my kitchen, anyway.