Wow I just found this thread. I read the first post and knew it was not going anywhere. I will recommend to you a book which has changed many lives. It is called the system and will help you understand yourself, as well as how to change your behavious so that it positively affects your dating life. I read it about 10 years ago and it turned my dating life 180 degrees. It's called "The System" and it works like a charm. The three big things it stresses as has been said before are "Confidence,Challenge,Control(Of yourself)"
I strongly recommend reading the book and following what it preaches. It really makes it easy to understand where you stand with a woman very quickly and helps you spot the wrong ones and the right ones. Good luck to you.
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