njoy, what worked for me was to turn it into our Christmas gift to each other. It worked out well because she wanted a new TV so we got the whole home theater set-up. This works on multiple levels: 1) It is, after all, your Christmas gift so you should be able to get what you want, 2) It is also a gift for her, so the more you spend the more it looks like you are spending on her, and 3) You don't have to spend the holiday season wandering the malls wondering what she would like and hoping that you can stumble on something that will make her happy when she opens it Christmas morning - instead you spend the holiday season going to cool audio/electronics stores and checking out the stuff.
