let me update up guys with what i have done over the past few days......sorry couldn't post earlier......i set all speakers to small and the mains change at 90hz or below to subwoofer.......i couldn't find any way to bring it down...also i noticed that i had connected the subwoofer to the receiver at the slit jack and not the mono jack as recommended .....that has been corrected........also the surrounds were not firing as i had selected "front mains only"......so now i get the surround speakers firing and get better bass from the sub.......and i watched the helicopter scene from matrix again...and there was a big difference.........also i brought the volume upto 25db....and yes the neighbours did ask my wife again about what kind of speakers we have....i will continue to read the receiver manual and see what else can i do.......and keep you guys posted.....thanks for everybodys input...it was very helpful