Also, I agree with you, Bigjohn, on the "turn up the center channel" fix. I had to do it for my wife after I had just calibrated based on how I liked the sound. Unfortunately, she has a much better ear than I - and when I got my Avia disc and SPL meter, she was spot on. Did you try just calibrating for her seat? I haven't tried that yet because she doesn't care that much about the surround effects - she just wants to hear the dialogue.
The Star Wars episodes I and II do seem to be mixed very loud in all the speakers except the center...
