TK,
The best approach is to sit down with your wife and select various finishes that you feel will suit your decor. My wife and I went through this process. We narrowed it down to three selections. It makes it so much easier when you have the samples in your room to see how they match up with your decor. Lighting plays a big role in how these finishes appear. We tried the digital picture route to match our Ethan Allen coffee and end tables. It didn't work out. Good luck with the selections.