I'd get the Veritas center, and the QS8 surrounds.

You're wife will get used to it. I honestly wouldn't mix and match the Veritas mains with the VP100. If she can deal with those huge 2.3's, the center shouldn't be an issue. The QS8's can be ordered in egg shell white with white grills. Assuming your walls are also white, they'd all but disappear.