And if these audio guys are trying to sell product, you'd think the theater room would be set up right, wouldn't you.
I agree with Jakewash that general public is looking for the big boom when shopping. You mentioned above that the subs you're listening to are in theater rooms, so most likely they're set up for movies and are running hot to "show off".
Have you been able to tweak and play with the subs at these stores? Adjusting the volume/gain on the subs amp shoud help. Which models have you listened to and have you found a shop that will let you demo the sub at your house or that has a liberal return policy?
I've been very happy with my HSU whether its set up to blend or if I want to make it to stand out a little with some bass heavy music like rap. One of the other Axiom subs that has been mentioned to be really good with music is the EP175 I believe.
