In reply to:

What if I am just a closet distorted bass lover and don't know it ?

We all are. I have a pretty good set of ears (to make up for the fact I'm ugly ) and while I was pretty close on ear-balling the mains and centre, I found that left to my own devices, I ran the surrounds "hot" (4dB over the mains & centre) and the sub extra hot (6-8dB over the mains and centre) And I'm the guy here that coined the derogatory term "junk jiggling bass."

Bren R.