Without looking at my manual, I think my 3808 has Audyssey Off, Normal, Flat, and maybe one other. In addition you have Dynamic EQ and the Dynamic Volume settings;normal, evening, midnight. I would make sure you don't have one of the extras turned on. I've never experienced any problems with the "highs" but sometimes the "lows" can be overpowering.

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