Thanks for all of the info everyone!
I think we have decided to have the wedding here... We decided to split the wedding and vacation in two and let my parents worry about the vacation and we can worry about the wedding.
We managed to find availability on short notice for Saturday May 30 at a chapel in the woods here in town that has a nice view and is reasonably priced. We also managed to secure a wedding photographer on short notice. The photographer we are using did our engagement pics a few weeks ago and actually met up with me today to deliver the pics she finally got in. I asked her about her availability for our wedding and surprisingly she was free.
Things are coming together, but we still have to get bridesmaid dresses picked out and sized (weren't having any at the beach wedding), and the groomsmen fitted for tuxes (or maybe we will go with shirts and ties only), get invitations together at a last minute, ect.
Regarding the vacation: My parents are going to wait and see how this flu thing plays out and maybe we will go to mexico after all. Since the wedding is no longer a part of the vacation they can wait until the day before the trip and cancel with their "cancel for any reason" insurance. If the swine flu situation doesn't get better and the mexico trip doesn't happen, The two of us will find somewhere to fly to in the US on our own for our honeymoon and we will leave my parents, sister, and her boyfriend behind. If the swine flu situation gets much worse then maybe we'll just load up the car and go camping in the mountains for a week who knows
also, I emailed our wedding coordinator from mexico and told her the wedding was off and not to charge my card. I went ahead and called my bank and canceled my debit card in case they decide to bill me anyway... I just didn't like the idea of my debit card number being listed on an authorization form for $3K somewhere in mexico...
