You have grounds and neutrals on the same bus bar???? Tell me, is there a jumper between the right and left bars?
Randy, you better find another electrician with a current fitness card and get that looked at. If I understand correctly what you are describing, it sounds as if you have no ground protection in your home right now. In other words, if you have a short on an appliance and your kid just happens to have one hand on it, and one to a ground source (like a metal sink), he just became the path to ground.
I don't mean to scare you or be mellow dramatic Randy, but I'm beginning to get very concerned about your wiring. Without being there to see for myself what's going on, I'm encouraging you to seek professional, and LICENCED help.
