Hang on. Before we work on solutions, let's first figure out what the problem is. smile

Set all your cross-overs to 80. It will be easier on your Yammie.

How far do you and the missus sit from the fronts and sides? And what is the length, width and height of your room?

House of the Rising Sone
Out in the mid or far field
Dedicated mid-woofers are over-rated