craigsub, anything that will improve your communication skills would be welcome - as it seems you are frequently misunderstood.

"What I am saying (perhaps I need to use smaller words) is that we live in a society that exercises selective assignment of responsibility. According to guys like you...

1. If she had killed the fetus, that is ok.

2. If she Has the child, and wants to keep the child, that is ok.

3. If I voice an opinion that since it was HER choice to keep the child, that I should have the same "right" to rid myself of responsibility that she had, that is bad."

It is ridiculous to assert that a man should have the power to tell a woman to have an abortion. It is equally ridiculous to assert that the father of a child should have the option to financially support the child or not.

You were correct earlier to state that your "choice" came at the moment of conception.

BTW, did you remember to calculate lost interest into that $200K? Your actual cost might be significantly higher.